Saturday, January 30, 2016


   What defines a housewife?   Well that is definitely  not a simple question to answer but I'm gonna give it a try going based on my own experiences.   Remember this is just my opinion and may not pertain to all in a whole or part.   

   A housewife to me can either be a stay at home mom, a working mother, married or single.  She may not even have children at home anymore or may be in the process of having a family.  No matter what the case in each individual  situation is they all have something in common.   They strive to do it all for their families.  

   If a housewife had to write a resume just based on what they do everyday, any CEO would be impressed.  They can manage time, multi-task, work under pressure, de-stress  any situation, they are accountants, personal chauffeurs, chefs and caterers, doctors, tailors, event planners, psychologists, bouncers, negotiators, and much much more.   Being a housewife has so many elements to it that not one thing can define it.   It is a privilege and a nightmare at times but hey no pain no gain.  We take each day as it comes, with the  good , the bad and the oh so aweful I need a drink right now days.  

   There is no handbook to tell you how to do it and any book that claims to is just a crock of shit.   And now a days you also have everyone and their neighbours aunties opinion on how you should do things.   It drives me bonkers and 99% of the time all those opinions up against each other contradict one another.  For example some ppl may say that you must not have a job in order to be considered a housewife because then she is not 100% focused on her family.  Well I have an unnamed friend who not only does all the same things I do as a stay at home mom for her kids, husband and herself but also runs a small business out of her home that keeps her very busy.   Not sure how she does it cause personally I think I would go nuts , but just because she works doesn't make her any less of a housewife. She still breaks her back just like every other housewife.  

   So basically each and every housewife is not 100% alike but each and everyone is unique.   Although I'm sure you can agree not all are authentic.  I hate nothing more then that mother who thinks that her way is the only right way and every other mother is doing it wrong.  You know that one I'm talking about who when you tell her your crazy story of the day she just gives you that look with her top lip curled up as u speak and then interrupts you to tell you how she has dealt with that situation before and basically tells you that u should not do it the way u did and that u should've done it her exact way because that's what a book told her to do.  Snore.   Give me a break.  Like screw off all ready.  Take your book and shove it.    And she always has to one up the other moms whether it be with bringing in those perfect little cupcakes with the handmade sugar flowers wrapped in the school logo sprinkled with fairy dust after you tell her you are bringing Rice Krispy  squares.   Haha.  You know that one that  everything has always got to be a degree better than everyone else.   Jokes on her.  Lol she just wasted a whole day baking them and all i did was spend 2 minutes in isle 3 and the check out line. Be authentic to who you are and how you want to do things.  Never let that judgy weirdo fake mom tell you otherwise or make you feel like you are doing anything wrong.    Don't worry about what the other housewives are gonna say and yah we all know they all gossip, how else would we get any real life adult entertainment. 

   OK so now that I have rambled on a about whatever popped into my scattered housewife brain at the moment I will just conclude with this to answer my original question.   You can not define a housewife it's just way to complex.
   Thanks for reading and remember if you like what you see please share and subscribe.  Also if you have an stories, or suggestions of what you'd like to hear about please send me a message.   Next post I'm am going to finally get back on track to my intro and continue on from what happens on a typical day after 9am in the life of a REAL housewife.

A REAL Housewife 


   So you may ask why? Why another blog about being  a mom or a wife.  It's simple.  All the blogs I've read out there seem so sugar coated and mundane. Or they talk about how hard it is to change a diaper.   BORING!  I don't want to read about that stuff, it's not interesting but when you watch those crazy shows where everything is glamorized and you realize hey life isn't really like that but yet a watered down version u being to realize how being a housewife is pretty cool.  And being a housewife isn't just about being a mom or being a wife, we are actual woman with actual lives as well and there is nothing mundane about it, trust me!!!  Our lives are filled with daily routines, ups and downs, drama and everything in between. 

  Sometimes as I sit around at one of my daughters dance studios with all the other housewives I realize that our lives are somewhat of a soap opera and to be honest it is entertaining so why not share it with all the other housewives who need a little entertainment in their lives and can relate.   Stay tuned for my next blog on What defines a Housewife.
A REAL Housewife

Friday, January 29, 2016


   So I will be the first to say that I am completely guilty of watching those reality shows that glamorize being a housewife.  You know which ones I'm talking about!   The ones where the mothers all wake up with perfect hair, perfect makeup and dressed like they are going to an awards ceremony.   Their house never has anything out of place and their families kids are perfect little angels  and oh yes don't forget about all the luxuries like a cook, a nanny, a driver, and heck even some have an assistant but yet they do not work out of the home and have decided to stay with their children.  I am here to set the record straight.  

   There isn't anything REAL about those housewives and being a housewife is nothing like that.......  Welcome to the REAL "real housewife Diaries.  I am a married mother of 4 kid.  2 boys and 2 girls ranging in age from 6 yrs to 15 yrs and boy let me tell you my life is nothing like that.  I wake up with messy hair every morning and half my make up smeared down my face from the day before (if I had a chance to wear it that day).  I hit snooze 4 times while telling my kids to hurry up and get dressed for school while I try to get a few more minutes of sleep and once they are ready I grab the clothes next to my bed on the floor and quickly rush down to feed them, make a quick half hearted lunch and head out the door all while yelling how we are going to be late and they should hurry it up even though I am the one who hit snooze 4 times.   I drive them to school trying not to yell at every other driver on the rush hour road who is in MY way and making me more late.   We arrive at school and I get them out of the car just as the 1st bell is ringing but hey at  least the 2nd bell hasn't gone yet.  I then head home to start my housewife day without the kids which does not include hanging out with my other housewife friends drinking fine champagne and  eating caviar dressed in a $5000 outfit that I will only ever wear once while my maids do my laundry and run my errands and a gourmet chef prepares my families dinner for the evening.   Oh no no.  Instead I make a cup of coffee and contemplate whether or not to start on the dishes from the night before or to have a much needed shower that somehow has slipped me by for the past couple of days.  That is the jest of my mornings and hey its only 9am by this point.......

   I am not saying that I don't like nice things and don't like to get all dolled up but there is real reality in the way that I  and many other housewives do things and live our lives as average housewives.   I wouldn't be keeping it real if I said otherwise.

    So if you are a REAL real  housewife with REAL real housewife days then stay tuned for some real stories, topics, trials, tribulations and much more if not you can head back to the tube and watch something that is completely fabricated, glamorized and unreletable.  

Thanks for reading
A REAL Housewife